"I Still Want To Attend Church, But I'm Caring for Someone With Dementia!"
When caring for someone with dementia, isolation develops as an increasing challenge for family caregivers. A number of frustrating and embarrassing mishaps can await most caregivers and their loved ones, so the seclusion increases.
Yet, pushing back against that isolation benefits not only the caregiver, but the loved one with dementia as well. Churches and places of worship provide great comfort, strength, and community to a family living with a member suffering from dementia. Attending those places for a long as possible helps both the caregiver and the loved one with dementia.
Dementia Care expert, Tracey Maxfield, RN, serves as a regular contributor to the our radio show for caregivers. She recently provided several tips when taking a loved one with dementia out in public—and specifically to church.
When The Answers We Demand Don't Appear
When struggling with loneliness and isolation, dark thoughts often grip us as caregivers. We fearfully cry out for someone to tell us what to do, where to go, or how to cope. Simply put—we demand answers. Furthermore, we want an explanation of why these difficult events are happening to us in light of a good an loving God.
Some Answers Won't Make Sense Right Now
When just a toddler, our oldest son fell and lacerated his chin, and I had to hold him down while he received stitches. I’ll never forget the look of terror in his eyes and his screams. as he endured what, for him, was horrifying. He had no way to understand what was happening or how to cope. As he struggled, I avoided trying to explain things like stitches, infections, and antibiotics to a crying three-year-old, and instead gently assured him of my presence and that he would be okay. Soon, the doctor finished, and I held our son and dried his tears.
How are we any different when traveling in the often-long valley of the shadow of death? While our Heavenly Father seems to rarely give us the answers we demand, He does give us the assurance we need. The assurance of His presence and His love for us.
From YOUR CAREGIVER MINUTE With Peter Rosenberger
Ale, Lynn, and FunGani Aho arrived at the studio for a special show dicussing caregivers in the Kingdom of Tonga. A missionary to Tonga, Lynn brings an exuberance and passion for the people there. She met her husband, Ale, there, and their family is addressing the needs of family caregivers in Tonga. Using recordings of our show, my books, and blog posts, Lynn is showing Tongans how to better care for themselves as they see to the needs of the most vulernable members of their society.
About Peter Rosenberger
A thirty-year caregiver for his wife, Gracie, who lives with severe disabilities, Peter Rosenberger understands the journey of a caregiver as few do. His experience led to him to author four books including Hope for the Caregiver, and 7 Caregiver Landmines and How You Can Avoid Them.
Peter recently earned a 2nd Dan (degree) black-belt in Hapkido. Furthermore, Peter is also an accomplished pianist. He recently release his new CD, Songs for the Caregiver. Peter and Gracie live in Nashville, TN, where he also serves and the president and co-founder of Standing With Hope.
Robert J. Morgan is the teaching pastor of The Donelson Fellowship in Nashville, Tennessee, where he has served for 35 years. He is a best-selling and Gold-Medallion winning writer with more than 35 books in print and more than 4 million copies in circulation in multiple languages. He is a writer for Dr. David Jeremiah and Turning Points Magazine, and has many articles published in other leading Christian periodicals. He is also a regular contributor to The Huffington Post.
He and his wife Katrina have three daughters and fourteen grandchildren. In 2014, Rob was awarded an honorary Doctor of Divinity Degree from his alma mater, Columbia International University. Rob has appeared on numerous national television and radio shows, and he came to our studio at NewsChannel 1510 to share his own journey as a caregiver for more than 27 years for his wife who struggles with MS.
Talking about his new book, Reclaiming the Lost Art of Biblical Mediation, Robert shares his passion to better care for himself and more effectively care for his wife by meditating on scripture.
Sometimes the problem is, we listen too much to ourselves, but we don't talk to ourselves enough. A lot of my sermons are self-therapy sessions that allow other people to listen in on." -Robert Morgan
For information, visit www.robertjmorgan.com
Nationally known comedian, Jeff Allen, gets serious about the challenges of caregivers.
For four decades, Jeff Allen has been performing in theaters, on television and radio, and as a keynote for corporate functions and fundraisers around the world.
Jeff Allen is the best at what he does - making people laugh as hard as humanly possible. His Happy Wife, Happy Life® message of a marriage gone wrong and redeemed has given laughter and encouragement to millions of people. Jeff’s comedy drives home the humor in everyday family life and the joy derived from a healthy marriage.
He called my show to share his family's own heartbreaking experiences as caregivers. He also discussed lessons learned from the journey. Even in the difficult thing, however, Jeff demonstrates how to appreciate the funny moments—giving much needed relief that our hearts desperately need.
Now in it's fourth printing, Peter's book, HOPE FOR THE CAREGIVER is strengthening his fellow caregivers across the country. HOPE FOR THE CAREGIVER is written by one who truly understands the journey, Peter Rosenberger draws upon an astonishing three decades as a caregiver to offer practical advice, encouragement, compassion, and humor to fellow caregivers.
The new CD from Peter Rosenberger
Are you finding that car rides to and from the doctor and other appointments ...are filled with drama?
Change that by downloading SONGS FOR THE CAREGIVER from ITUNES.
Paul Young, author of THE SHACK, called the show on 2/28/2017 to discuss this book, the new movie, and the heart he has for individuals to understand God's deep love for them.
For more visit www.caregiverswithhope.com
Helping my niece who has cerebral palsy play the piano, I saw a picture of a greater invitation to participate in God's music.
In his weekly radio show, Peter delves into the challenging issues faced by caregivers. From the practical to the spiritual, Peter helps caregivers identify “what help looks like,” while also providing them with the vocabulary and encouragement to ask for that help.
Drawing upon his astonishing understanding of health care issues, a deep compassion for the heartache of caregiving, and his vast experience as a caregiver, Peter empowers fellow caregivers to take charge of their own, finances, and emotional state —regardless of the circumstances of their loved ones.
Knowing the emotional toll of serving as a caregiver, Peter’s outrageous humor brings the fresh air of laughter into the painful places faced by America’s caregiving population. Listeners leave each show feeling stronger, calmer, and better equipped to face the daily difficulties of caring for vulnerable loved ones.
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The Problem of Pain. Sharing Gracie Rosenberger's insights pain ...learned from her 32 year ordeal of hurting.
For Father's Day 2015, I talked with my dad about impact he's had on me.